Hi all, I haven't posted for a while, we have been jumping through the hoops of getting a diagnosis. OH has been diagnosed as having Late Onset Alzheimers and as it appears quite early in the journey he has been prescribed Donepezil which seems to be tolerated OK. I have a few questions the wonderful people on here will probably have an answer too, so here goes.
1. He receives Lower Rate Attendance Allowance which he has had since COPD means he needs care. My GP said I shouldn't now consider leaving him alone overnight although I do still work 3 days a week. Would I qualify for Higher Rate now, I have been frightened to ask in case we lose what we have.
2. OH is fixated on fact that he has lost his driving licence. DVLA revoked in July. But OH blames his GP and refuses to have anything to do with him threatening to get him struck off for taking his licence away. I have supplied DVLA with copies of all diagnosis letters and asked them to consider an Assessment but they haven't replied and when OH rings, they blame the doctor, saying he must say OH has recovered, which he can't and doctor blames them. No-one visits any more because it is all OH talks about. I have tried everything but he won't let it go. Any ideas?
3. He is very angry and spiteful towards me, everything up to and including world peace is my fault.He is not violent, beyond banging on tables and slamming doors but I find it hard to tolerate day in and day out . I am seeing my own GP to tell her I am struggling because when memory Clinic staff call he is on his best behaviour and instructs me not to tell them anything. Again any coping ideas?
Sorry to go on but this is the first opportunity I have had to post for months, I am either at work or he constantly wants to know what I am doing. I find it difficult to find time to myself to pee, never mind shower.
Feel better for just letting it all out. I know my situations is minor to what some of you deal with daily, so thank you for listening
1. He receives Lower Rate Attendance Allowance which he has had since COPD means he needs care. My GP said I shouldn't now consider leaving him alone overnight although I do still work 3 days a week. Would I qualify for Higher Rate now, I have been frightened to ask in case we lose what we have.
2. OH is fixated on fact that he has lost his driving licence. DVLA revoked in July. But OH blames his GP and refuses to have anything to do with him threatening to get him struck off for taking his licence away. I have supplied DVLA with copies of all diagnosis letters and asked them to consider an Assessment but they haven't replied and when OH rings, they blame the doctor, saying he must say OH has recovered, which he can't and doctor blames them. No-one visits any more because it is all OH talks about. I have tried everything but he won't let it go. Any ideas?
3. He is very angry and spiteful towards me, everything up to and including world peace is my fault.He is not violent, beyond banging on tables and slamming doors but I find it hard to tolerate day in and day out . I am seeing my own GP to tell her I am struggling because when memory Clinic staff call he is on his best behaviour and instructs me not to tell them anything. Again any coping ideas?
Sorry to go on but this is the first opportunity I have had to post for months, I am either at work or he constantly wants to know what I am doing. I find it difficult to find time to myself to pee, never mind shower.
Feel better for just letting it all out. I know my situations is minor to what some of you deal with daily, so thank you for listening