My husband who is 74years old has had a brain scan and been diagnosed with Vascular disease. We have been told he hasn't got dementia. I am 59years old. I will make it as brief as I can. The first symptons he had was a year and a half ago where he had fallen asleep for a short period when we had gone to bed that evening, and he woke up and asked me what he had been doing that day, to which I told him, and then he kept asking me the same question over and over again. I at first thought he was joking with me. He ended up going off to sleep and didn't remember anything about the night before when I questioned him. He has had 12 of these episodes since the first one,spaced out over the 18 months. The last one was the worst, when he came down for breakfast and the next thing he stood still, staring in to space, and looked like he was eating a sweet,his lips turned blue, he was like that for just a few minutes, but afterwards he wasn't quite himself, so I made him lay down and he slept for 4 hours. He went on to have 3 more attacks during the day. He was having mini strokes. It is quite frightening to see. I was very upset about these attacks as he hadn't had one since February. I was hoping that now he is on Asprin and Cholesterol tablets that perhaps he wouldn't have anymore of these mini strokes. My husband's short term memory is quite bad now, although he remembers things from years ago. It isn't easy to have a conversation now, as when I start talking about something, before I have finished he is talking about something else. I never seem to get any peace, as when he is reading the newspaper he starts telling me everything he is reading. I do have to be very careful, as there was an occasion when he was telling me something in the paper, I just happened to say "I find that hard to believe" and then he goes off at me saying "you never believe what I say" The real reason I am writing this is because I am feeling quite depressed. My husband is being not very nice to me, going on and on at me that I am being very argumentative towards him and saying I don't love him like I used to, and that perhaps I have found someone else. He acted like this about 6 months ago and it was so awful that I contemplated leaving him.I had to ring my son up so he could come down to our house to calm my husband down.It made me feel so bad that I had to let our son see us like that, he has never seen his parents row, (it's true, my husband and I have always got on) We have been married 37 years and it is so sad that our last few years together have ended up like this. I've alway been a happy go lucky person, but I just feel miserable most of the time now. I feel very lonely so it would be very nice to be able to communicate with someone who is also going through the same as me. I realise that everybody is going through bad times, but I have been reading all the threads and it seems to me that you just mention dementia, but the medical people have said my husband hasn't got this, they are saying it is Vascular, so I am puzzled. Is there anybody out there who has got a partner with these type of symptoms. I have got family and when I try to talk to them I can see they don't fully understand, as when they are with my husband he seems quite normal to them, but they aren't with him 24/7. I very much look forward to hearing from someone. Juliebabs.