Hello
Same here.
She needs daily help now, because if she isnt washing it will be almost certain that she isnt:
1. brushing her teeth, her teeth will start to fall out/toothache
2. wiping and washing her bottom, leads to infections (eg my dad got thrush)
3. changing her clothes,bedding,night clothes
4. meds
Unless she has this it is looking like "neglect" (not you personally, but her community as a whole)
Probably you cannot give that help every, so you need to visit your GP in order to get a referral by GP to social services. (dont wait for them to be proactive, they wont, go without her you can speak to GP yourself since your mother has Alz)
SS will assess her, and will help you locate and coordinate a daily carer to come in.
We have one every morning.
I worried so much and felt sick at even introducing the idea, but then I just did it, and it is all great the carers are usually wonderful, cheery and empathetic. One advantage is you have a second pair of eyes to help you pick up on when things get worse, so you dont miss things, and can be proactive.
Other:
1. Ask your local Age Concern to help you fill in the form for attendance allowance which should give her some non means tested money approx 40 quid towards the carer
2. If you havn't got LPA's finance and health , get one fast, suggest to pay a solicitor since this is so much easier and you will thank your lucky stars you did it.
Same here.
She needs daily help now, because if she isnt washing it will be almost certain that she isnt:
1. brushing her teeth, her teeth will start to fall out/toothache
2. wiping and washing her bottom, leads to infections (eg my dad got thrush)
3. changing her clothes,bedding,night clothes
4. meds
Unless she has this it is looking like "neglect" (not you personally, but her community as a whole)
Probably you cannot give that help every, so you need to visit your GP in order to get a referral by GP to social services. (dont wait for them to be proactive, they wont, go without her you can speak to GP yourself since your mother has Alz)
SS will assess her, and will help you locate and coordinate a daily carer to come in.
We have one every morning.
I worried so much and felt sick at even introducing the idea, but then I just did it, and it is all great the carers are usually wonderful, cheery and empathetic. One advantage is you have a second pair of eyes to help you pick up on when things get worse, so you dont miss things, and can be proactive.
Other:
1. Ask your local Age Concern to help you fill in the form for attendance allowance which should give her some non means tested money approx 40 quid towards the carer
2. If you havn't got LPA's finance and health , get one fast, suggest to pay a solicitor since this is so much easier and you will thank your lucky stars you did it.