Hi, I'm panicking quietly. Cried loads as we are in our 60's and now will not do all the 'retirement' things we hoped to do - he doesn't enjoy things anymore. However am now in a place where I can accept it and enjoy the little things that we still can do together - even though it's now me taking the lead role. What I am anxious about is money. Will I have to sell my home if he needs residential care in the future? I don't want to look after him if he becomes incontinent - just couldn't do it. Does anyone else feel the same?