Husband of 56 years with dementia. Once again a confrontation. He needed a new dressing on a wound. Yes, there is more than one thing going on! He had

[Binsley]

Husband of 56years with dementia still being confrontational. He needed a new dressing on a wound as he has had a basal cell carcinoma removed. Yes, we have more than one thing going on here! Because of where the wound is close to the shoulder dressings will not adhere very well and they and I am rubbish. I guess at the end of the day things get a little stressful and any help is unappreciated so things can get a bit heated. I guess when I am tired and frustrated my voice can get a bit louder than necessary, but I can only do the best I can even if it's not as perfect as it should be

 

[karaokePete]

It's very unfortunate that things like that happen quite a lot. My wife can also get agitated and can be difficult to settle. I hate when it happens in public.

There is a thread that is a bit of a 'saints' guide to communication that contains some useful hints. I doubt if anyone can follow the rules 100% but it is useful and if you wish to read it just click the following link
https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/threads/compassionate-communication-with-the-memory-impaired.30801/

 

[canary]

My OH scratches himself to pieces - gouges great big lumps out of his arms, torso and shoulders and I know exactly what you mean about dressings not staying on.
Can I recommend Opsite dressings? They are, as the name suggests, designed for post-op wounds and are very flexible. I find that they stay on extremely well and are waterproof, so dont come off in the shower either. You can buy them over the internet, or ask your pharmacist to order them for you.

 

[Binsley]

Thanks for your help