Hi - I’m new to this group. My 54 year old husband (we’ve been married 28 years) has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. He’s working although as a result of worrying about his ongoing memory lapses (and subsequently being diagnosed) I unearthed unpaid bills, debts etc which I knew nothing about. We will most prob need to sell our house to get by. (2 kids 15 and 20 who I haven’t told yet about their dads diagnosis - how do I do this?!). I’m also looking to increase my p/t work to full time work now to help us out of this mountain of a mess.
I am so sad and angry all at the same time plus worry beyond anything. (And feel guilty for these feelings too) I cry at some point every day for what life has thrown at us (I went through breast cancer when I was 34 too). I’m a positive person but this is testing me beyond anything and I feel like I’ve been robbed of my life (things were always good in all ways before now) and the future I had always imagined I’d had has been taken away. Getting through breast cancer made me resilient and strong in all ways, but this is making me crumble.
What I suppose I’m after in this group is to hear from others about how they have /are coping, especially people who are dealing with a young partner. I also wonder how many years before he becomes unable to work/be left without care? I know it’s hard to say and everyone is different but I’m just wondering if I’ll be able to work for years or he’ll need care around the clock before I know it? Sorry - but lots of questions but I’m so worried and trying to process it all, whilst juggling everything and everyone.
Thankyou x
I am so sad and angry all at the same time plus worry beyond anything. (And feel guilty for these feelings too) I cry at some point every day for what life has thrown at us (I went through breast cancer when I was 34 too). I’m a positive person but this is testing me beyond anything and I feel like I’ve been robbed of my life (things were always good in all ways before now) and the future I had always imagined I’d had has been taken away. Getting through breast cancer made me resilient and strong in all ways, but this is making me crumble.
What I suppose I’m after in this group is to hear from others about how they have /are coping, especially people who are dealing with a young partner. I also wonder how many years before he becomes unable to work/be left without care? I know it’s hard to say and everyone is different but I’m just wondering if I’ll be able to work for years or he’ll need care around the clock before I know it? Sorry - but lots of questions but I’m so worried and trying to process it all, whilst juggling everything and everyone.
Thankyou x