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Thank you MrsBusy and Beate. I'm always so grateful and touched by the kind and thoughtful advice I receive on this forum. It helps me so much.I'd say let them get on with it first, see how they cope. It might be that they figure it out for themselves when they get comments from other relatives and pre-op nurses. It might also be that the GP doesn't react to your letter or SS say they can't react on hearsay. Unless it's a safeguarding issue, they prefer to wait for a crisis!
Aww, thank you Shedrech! I appreciate your kind words.Hi DMac
I think you're right, again - things are bubbling under and your FiL's family are stepping up and are more aware - time will tell.
I think you're an amazingly strong, caring and capable woman. Those for whom you will be providing support in your new career have gained a real gem.
And personally, your posts have helped me to step back from a situation that was not going to improve just because I want it to, without feeling I am walking away:
"They also serve, who only stand and wait."
Thank you Lady A - it all went as well as I could have wished for, as it happens. FIL was rather reluctant to make the journey, but once at BIL's house he was ensconced in a comfortable chair, and had his dinner brought to him on a lap tray. He didn't really engage with anyone, though. MIL on the other hand enjoyed the company of her grandchildren and seemed to have a really nice time. OH had to be careful not to drink, as he was doing all the driving, and I had to be organised with the night-time routine. Otherwise it was OK. I hope all TPers had a good day too.Well , you have done all you can to warn them. Obviously, they will only learn the hard way. Hard on your parents in law, but not your responsibility anymore. Deep breath, DMac, and keep breathing! Let us know how it goes. Xx
Thank you Shedrech, I hope you have a good day, too. I'm off to watch a football game with OH this afternoon. That always provides a bit of relief and release!So glad to hear that all your efforts paid off and you all had a pleasant day - hope Boxing Day can be a bit more merry for you