So finally, after a year long fight, five months of court hearings, interrogations, writing statements, having people inspect my home over and over again, and people continually questioning my poor mother, social workers, psychiatrists, solicitors and unimaginable hell, Mum and I are delighted to let you all know we have won our case in court today to allow Mum to live here with me!!!
My sister also did not get Deputyship for Finance, and sadly nor did I as my sister said she would contest it if they gave it to me. To avoid my poor Mum paying further solicitors costs and, also to protect me from my sister being unreasonable in the future, have decided to let the LA do it for now and then appoint a Panel Deputy although I am concerned about elements of this but will wait and see.
My sister was still insistent on regular contact (despite Mum not wanting to see her and my sister having not previously contacted Mum for several years!!) so Im afraid I had to compromise on this as again, it could have resulted in the case dragging on. I have had to agree for her to visit Mum in my home initially every fortnight, with an SW present throughout and for me to leave the house for them to have privacy. Not happy at all but it was the only way forward unfortunately. I'm hoping she may lose interest in time but yesterdays contact resulted in my coming home to finding my Mum shaking and sobbing uncontrollably, blaming me for leaving her alone and querying why she was still being put through this, as she thought it was all over and settled. She doesn't understand that the so called professionals are insistent on her having regular contact with my sister. Madness and I don't know what to do but fear there is nothing I can do now.
I think this whole experience has totally broken me and it will take time to heal so at the moment I am not feeling the euphoria I expected to. At the end of the day however, I do believe the judge saw who was the good daughter and who not, and made the right decision for my Mum to live out her days well loved, safe and cared for and never to be emotionally nor financially abused by anyone again. The judge praised me for my extreme courage but there was never any choice. I would fight to my last breath for my Mum.
Finally, a huge thank you to all of you for your support and love in what have been the darkest days of my life.
My sister also did not get Deputyship for Finance, and sadly nor did I as my sister said she would contest it if they gave it to me. To avoid my poor Mum paying further solicitors costs and, also to protect me from my sister being unreasonable in the future, have decided to let the LA do it for now and then appoint a Panel Deputy although I am concerned about elements of this but will wait and see.
My sister was still insistent on regular contact (despite Mum not wanting to see her and my sister having not previously contacted Mum for several years!!) so Im afraid I had to compromise on this as again, it could have resulted in the case dragging on. I have had to agree for her to visit Mum in my home initially every fortnight, with an SW present throughout and for me to leave the house for them to have privacy. Not happy at all but it was the only way forward unfortunately. I'm hoping she may lose interest in time but yesterdays contact resulted in my coming home to finding my Mum shaking and sobbing uncontrollably, blaming me for leaving her alone and querying why she was still being put through this, as she thought it was all over and settled. She doesn't understand that the so called professionals are insistent on her having regular contact with my sister. Madness and I don't know what to do but fear there is nothing I can do now.
I think this whole experience has totally broken me and it will take time to heal so at the moment I am not feeling the euphoria I expected to. At the end of the day however, I do believe the judge saw who was the good daughter and who not, and made the right decision for my Mum to live out her days well loved, safe and cared for and never to be emotionally nor financially abused by anyone again. The judge praised me for my extreme courage but there was never any choice. I would fight to my last breath for my Mum.
Finally, a huge thank you to all of you for your support and love in what have been the darkest days of my life.