Hi all
Im new here ,found this forum through desperation ,never knew you all were here
I am a carer for my mum with alzhiemers ,have been for a few years ( no idea how long ,my memory has gone to pot to ,is it herditary ,im only blooming 30+ ?!? )
My mum still lives in her own home and we ( myself ,hubby and 2 children ) have moved to a house a few doors away to enable me to care for her.
I wondered if a problem were having is common and if anyone could please offer any advice ?
Whilst mum isnt 'physically' incontinent ,she will go to the loo in strange places or hide faeces in strange places
Mum is only left for a few hours out of every 24 for me to come home and get some sleep too,but every morning I walk in to the awfull smell and have to find where it is .Someimes its obvious ,sometimes well hidden and spend the next couple of hours cleaning it up and everywhere its been trodden ,smeared .
We are thinking maybe she cannot find the loo so are thinking of having an extra one installed downstairs to see if this will help?!
Most other 'issues' mum has had have been phases and brief lived ( hiding rubbish bags in nieghbours gardens ,wandering in the night ect ) will this be a phase? (plllleaseeee be a phase )
Everyone is telling me its time for mum to go into a home but I just dont feel its right for mum yet.and because of my decision to still care for mum ( against peoples wishes ) I feel I have been deserted by my siblings and left to 'get on with it then ' with no emotional or pratical support (although they are helpful with finanical help ect )Mum went into respite for a couple of weeks whilst we went on a family holiday and it really didnt go well and took weeks to get her 'back to normal ' Even though mum has got quite bad ,her personality is still there and her sense of humour ( whats the cliche about that being the last thing to go ? ) I really feel I want to continue to care for mum for as long as this is the case
Thanks
ps ,sorry for rambling on ,this post became much longer and more 'waffle' than I hoped ,think it was just a relief to ofload
Im new here ,found this forum through desperation ,never knew you all were here
I am a carer for my mum with alzhiemers ,have been for a few years ( no idea how long ,my memory has gone to pot to ,is it herditary ,im only blooming 30+ ?!? )
My mum still lives in her own home and we ( myself ,hubby and 2 children ) have moved to a house a few doors away to enable me to care for her.
I wondered if a problem were having is common and if anyone could please offer any advice ?
Whilst mum isnt 'physically' incontinent ,she will go to the loo in strange places or hide faeces in strange places
Mum is only left for a few hours out of every 24 for me to come home and get some sleep too,but every morning I walk in to the awfull smell and have to find where it is .Someimes its obvious ,sometimes well hidden and spend the next couple of hours cleaning it up and everywhere its been trodden ,smeared .
We are thinking maybe she cannot find the loo so are thinking of having an extra one installed downstairs to see if this will help?!
Most other 'issues' mum has had have been phases and brief lived ( hiding rubbish bags in nieghbours gardens ,wandering in the night ect ) will this be a phase? (plllleaseeee be a phase )
Everyone is telling me its time for mum to go into a home but I just dont feel its right for mum yet.and because of my decision to still care for mum ( against peoples wishes ) I feel I have been deserted by my siblings and left to 'get on with it then ' with no emotional or pratical support (although they are helpful with finanical help ect )Mum went into respite for a couple of weeks whilst we went on a family holiday and it really didnt go well and took weeks to get her 'back to normal ' Even though mum has got quite bad ,her personality is still there and her sense of humour ( whats the cliche about that being the last thing to go ? ) I really feel I want to continue to care for mum for as long as this is the case
Thanks
ps ,sorry for rambling on ,this post became much longer and more 'waffle' than I hoped ,think it was just a relief to ofload