Hubby going into CH for respite

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by pamann, Sep 3, 2015.

  1. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
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    Pam you have been in my thoughts and prayers because you are going through a very hard time indeed. This has been a long slog for you and so stressful. You cannot deal with this level of dementia on your own. Please let the professionals take over and try to get some normality back in your life. It won't be resolved overnight but it will happen.
     
  2. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Thank you marionq, l miss him so much now, 10days, l cannot visit yet until he is settled, l must be strong, l have been busy having a clear out, l also play for 3 bowls clubs, had to give up 4months ago, so l have plenty to do, l am very grateful my family are always here for me.☺
     
  3. pony-mad

    pony-mad Registered User

    May 23, 2014
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    Mid-Wales
    Good morning Pam, I hope you have a better day and that you can settle to your new reality. You are in my thoughts. X


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  4. esmeralda

    esmeralda Registered User

    Nov 27, 2014
    3,072
    Devon
    Hope today has been a bit better today Pam, good idea to keep yourself busy.
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  5. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hello everyone, Eldest son went to see his father this afternoon, he thought he was in the home with him, said we have to make an escape plan to get out, son said do you know where you are, he said no l haven't got a clue, but we must get out of here, or we will die here, Son spoke to CH manager, they can not keep him there, needs to be in a secure unit.
    This is a nightmare for me, l have lost my voice , cannot speak!!!

    Where my hubby will go l do not know, l think they will section him, and then decide what to do with him.
    I have much support from friends and family, so must be very grateful.
     
  6. Blogg

    Blogg Registered User

    Jul 24, 2014
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    I'm so sorry to read your story and see that you and your husband are both suffering so much. I hope that you both get the support you need and deserve, I'll be thinking of you (())
     
  7. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,710
    Yorkshire
    Pamann I so so hope they will be able to find a way to help him and for you both to find some peace. What a grand son you have. Good that you have so much support.
    What to write without sounding trite?
    My dad's meds have been altered and he appears to be settling - so it seems there are things that can be done.
    All good wishes
     
  8. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,022
    Merseyside
    Sending love & hugs Pam xx
     
  9. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    Love from me too, Pam. Thinking of youxx
     
  10. Jinx

    Jinx Registered User

    Mar 13, 2014
    2,333
    Pontypool
    Do hope this situation gets sorted out soon, so awful for all of you, love and hugs. xxxx


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  11. bemused1

    bemused1 Registered User

    Mar 4, 2012
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    I hope things settle a bit and you both have some peace. I trust someone will sort out something for your poor husband soon
     
  12. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
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    Kent
    It really is a nightmare for you pamann .

    No one can control the varying symptoms of this illness and most of them are absolutely heartbreaking.

    Thank goodness you are being well supported.
     
  13. esmeralda

    esmeralda Registered User

    Nov 27, 2014
    3,072
    Devon
    Poor man, it's so heartbreaking to get a glimpse into how the world appears to him at the moment. Incredibly stressful for you Pam, no wonder you've lost your voice. So hope there is some peace for both of you soon.
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  14. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    How are things Pam? Desperately worried for you and thinking of you. xxx
     
  15. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hello everyone who replied to my thread, today there is no change hubby stll looking for escape route, l have been in bed resting, as the phone keeps ringing, l have lost my voice, been coughing all night feeling not good, hope tomorrow brings a better day.
     
  16. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
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    Oh Pam you don't sound well, I do hope you feel a bit better tomorrow and some help can be found for your husband xxx
     
  17. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
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    near Folkestone
    Oh Pam , so sorry to hear you are not well :( thinking of you and hoping you feel better soon and help is on its way for your husband . Lots of love xxxxxx


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  18. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
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    I'm sorry you're not well Pam. x


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  19. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,967
    Brixham Devon
    Oh Pam! Just catching up. Phew! That took some reading:( In a way I think it would help if your OH was sectioned. He would be assessed and perhaps some meds given to help him. In your area is there a Crisis team who could visit your OH in the CH and observe what is going on?

    I feel so sorry for both of you and I hope you feel better soon.

    Love

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  20. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hello LYNT Friday Dr from the Mental Health clinic went to see OH, he should have been sectioned SS said it would have been better for them, OH is staying in care home for another 2wks, it he escapes again he will be sectioned, he has a one to one carer watching him at all times, he is unaware of this. see what happens this week.
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