I have been reading alot recently and I recognise that I and many of you are already grieving the loss of our loved ones my mum is still with us (stage 7) I have been grieving since she was first diagnosed. you all probably know "the 5 stages of grieving" Stages of grief The following 'stages' have been identified as experiences that many people who are grieving go through. It is important to note that these stages vary widely between individuals and do not always occur in any particular order. 1.Numbness/Denial Feeling emotionally numb can be the first reaction to a death. In the denial stage you may refuse to believe what has happened. This could mean laying clothes out for a child or expecting the person to walk through the door. More commonly, people deny the impact the death has had on them and try to continue as normal. 2.Anger/Guilt Anger with ourselves or blaming others for our loss is not uncommon, particularly when the death was sudden or unexpected. It seems we need to try to make sense of the death and the accomppanying pain in some way and look for someone to take responsibility. Other strong emotions and a longing for the person who has died can accompany anger. You may also feel agitated or angry, find it difficult to concentrate, relax or sleep. 3. Bargaining Many imagine the ‘what if’s’. They may dwell on arguments they had with the dead person or things that they ‘should’ have done differently. Intellectually, you understand that the person has died but it takes much longer for your to really accept this emotionally. 4. Sadness Extreme sadness is a likely outcome for all those whose loved one has died. During this time many withdraw from family and friends, feel listless and tired, become withdrawn or are prone to sudden bouts of tears. Many feel like their life has lost its purpose and suffer from feelings of guilt. 5. Acceptance Pain, sadness and depression start to lessen; things are seen in a more positive light, although you may never overcome fully the feeling of loss. There is a greater acceptance that life has to go on. After a while your sadness will clear and your energy levels and sleeping patterns will return to normal. You will be able to think of the dead person without the accompanying feelings of deep sadness and focus more on the positive memories, whilst re-investing energy and emotion into other relationships. I fluctuate between 3-5, more 4-5 than anything else where are you on this emotional journey?