Hi all,
This is my first post here and I was hoping for some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now and we have always lived a few hours away from his mum so I only ever see her a few times a year. Over this time it would become clear that there was deterioration in her memory and she would be noticeably worse every time we saw her. She got an official diagnosis last year.
As we are both in our early twenties, it is understandably very difficult for him to cope with and I know he always felt guilty not seeing her. We now live closer to her so he is able to see her more regularly, but I find it very difficult knowing how to support him/what to say.
There is only my boyfriend and his dad to care for her, but when his dad is gone for an appointment etc, my boyfriend struggles emotionally to cope with looking after his mum. It seems like the illness has progressed rapidly because she has very little independence and language considering she was diagnosed within the last year. I have tried to get him to find an outlet for his feelings (journalling, music etc) but he is reluctant to open up. Is there anywhere I could direct him? What should I do? I feel useless never knowing what to say and nothing I do seems to comfort him.
Thanks
This is my first post here and I was hoping for some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now and we have always lived a few hours away from his mum so I only ever see her a few times a year. Over this time it would become clear that there was deterioration in her memory and she would be noticeably worse every time we saw her. She got an official diagnosis last year.
As we are both in our early twenties, it is understandably very difficult for him to cope with and I know he always felt guilty not seeing her. We now live closer to her so he is able to see her more regularly, but I find it very difficult knowing how to support him/what to say.
There is only my boyfriend and his dad to care for her, but when his dad is gone for an appointment etc, my boyfriend struggles emotionally to cope with looking after his mum. It seems like the illness has progressed rapidly because she has very little independence and language considering she was diagnosed within the last year. I have tried to get him to find an outlet for his feelings (journalling, music etc) but he is reluctant to open up. Is there anywhere I could direct him? What should I do? I feel useless never knowing what to say and nothing I do seems to comfort him.
Thanks