I wonder what others have put in place or would put in place for themselves after having had the experience of caring for someone with dementia? My mother has early Alzheimers and her personality changes and her sadness that her family won't look after her or even love her in her old age is devastating both to her and to us who love her desperately. She is in a care home which she hates and hopefully will soon be able to move from but she wants to live with one of us or back in her old home.
I really want to protect my own children from this heartache as much as possible and am adamant that I wouldn't ever want to live (and die) with them, have always said I must go into a care home and don't want to die even in my own home. Hospital is fine. But how do I put something like this into a document to ensure that my wishes are carried out and at some stage I don't try and guilt trip my kids into caring for me beyond what is sensible? The POA goes part way and my mother has a living will which deals with end of life, but it's the subtler stuff that so many of us go through, especially in the early stages, that I want to protect my kids from. I thought maybe a letter setting out my wishes if I were to get Alzheimers or any other condition but wondered if others have done anything similar?
Interested to hear your thoughts. Thanks
J
I really want to protect my own children from this heartache as much as possible and am adamant that I wouldn't ever want to live (and die) with them, have always said I must go into a care home and don't want to die even in my own home. Hospital is fine. But how do I put something like this into a document to ensure that my wishes are carried out and at some stage I don't try and guilt trip my kids into caring for me beyond what is sensible? The POA goes part way and my mother has a living will which deals with end of life, but it's the subtler stuff that so many of us go through, especially in the early stages, that I want to protect my kids from. I thought maybe a letter setting out my wishes if I were to get Alzheimers or any other condition but wondered if others have done anything similar?
Interested to hear your thoughts. Thanks
J