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My dad was diagnosed with mixed dementia diagnosis several months ago. He has Alzheimer's and Vascular dementia. He lives on his own.
The family have been trying to persuade him to register a Power of Attorney but he is very reluctant and suspicious. My mum (separated but friends) has said she is going to register one for herself in the hope of persuading him but he still doesn't want to. He says he will know when the time comes for him to need care or when he needs someone to manage his money.
It's really difficult to find the right balance between telling him how bad his condition could be by the time he needs a LPA in place and not causing him undue upset and anxiety. We, as a family have given him all the reasons that you read about online, but this doesn't persuade him because he says he will agree to help when the time comes.
I feel that what we need is more detailed information about the sorts of things that could happen if someone doesn't have LPA in place when the time comes - but websites just don't give you any detail about that. You read that someone will have to apply to the Court of Protection but this is fairly meaningless to all of us. What we don't know is what problems will he and the rest of us actually experience day-to-day without LPA? I've heard that the bank will freeze his bank account, but I'm sure my dad would just say How would the bank get to know about his condition unless somebody tells them?
Does anyone have a list of things that happen in a person's life when they lose mental capacity so that we can talk honestly with my dad about the future and why LPA is needed (in the kindest possible way, of course)?
Many thanks.
Emsie
My dad was diagnosed with mixed dementia diagnosis several months ago. He has Alzheimer's and Vascular dementia. He lives on his own.
The family have been trying to persuade him to register a Power of Attorney but he is very reluctant and suspicious. My mum (separated but friends) has said she is going to register one for herself in the hope of persuading him but he still doesn't want to. He says he will know when the time comes for him to need care or when he needs someone to manage his money.
It's really difficult to find the right balance between telling him how bad his condition could be by the time he needs a LPA in place and not causing him undue upset and anxiety. We, as a family have given him all the reasons that you read about online, but this doesn't persuade him because he says he will agree to help when the time comes.
I feel that what we need is more detailed information about the sorts of things that could happen if someone doesn't have LPA in place when the time comes - but websites just don't give you any detail about that. You read that someone will have to apply to the Court of Protection but this is fairly meaningless to all of us. What we don't know is what problems will he and the rest of us actually experience day-to-day without LPA? I've heard that the bank will freeze his bank account, but I'm sure my dad would just say How would the bank get to know about his condition unless somebody tells them?
Does anyone have a list of things that happen in a person's life when they lose mental capacity so that we can talk honestly with my dad about the future and why LPA is needed (in the kindest possible way, of course)?
Many thanks.
Emsie