Hi My Dad has dementia which is slowly getting worse and is cared for by my generally very fit mother. She has had a few health scares recently, including 2 bouts of cancer, and passing out unexpectedly and being bluelighted to hospital. The problem we face is that my Dad doesn't come across as being ill himself. We find that health professionals dealing with my mum don't realise he is ill. When she was taken to hospital, they got him to drive behind them (although he had actually stopped driving some time before). They also give him loads of information about her illness and care, to which he happily nods and agrees, and then cannot remember what they said later. We need to find a way of putting it on record for doctors and emergency health staff that they need to contact one of us if something goes wrong or they need to advise on her support - Any ideas?