I have just had a week away from my husband, who has VAD. Now back, I am finding it desperately difficult not to loose it when he repeats himself. He had a letter, headed 'for information' about some local issue, and asked what he was supposed to do about it. Answer was nothing, if was just for information. Asked same question 10 minutes later. And again later that evening. And the next day. Yesterday we were going out, and he asked if clothes were OK. I said sweater, which actually included embroidered logo indicating it was 26 years old, might be a tad past it. Crossly, he went and changed. 'Is this all right'? Yes, that sweater is fine. Goes out of the room, comes back "Will this do?'. Yes, like I said, that is fine. 5 minutes later. "Is this OK?" Oh for goodness sake, why do you think I said yes the last two times. To which he tells me not to make such a fuss as it is not that important. I feel like a coiled spring of tension, and have only been back 5 days. We have never had children, so I have not had to be patient before, and it certainly is not in my nature. How do others stop from snapping, and prevent back of neck going rigid?