My husband has recently spent a week in hospital, and even with 3 hour round trips daily for visits the time I had at home alone was a blessed relief. I had not had a break for 8 months, and was very close to the end of my tether - I do not have the temperament to humour someone 24/7, and that is what he now needs. I still cannot resist querying his claims such as he read in the paper that there is not to be any more building in the county, repeated umpteen times in quick succession, and absolutely not true. It is so wearing - and anyway he barely reads papers now, and does not remember what was in them. Previously I have had breaks away, with home care, but he now is not up to that - can't work the grill, can't restart the tempramental boiler, and can't remember the fact that the boiler man had called and been in the house for some time. Shortly I need to go on a week's course, so the CPN has arranged for him to go into local Order of St John home. I have been taking the angle that as he has just had an operation I don't think he should be left alone, which he agreed with pre-operation but now is baulking at the idea. Apart from anything else, this course is to do with a business I am setting up, which will mean my working round the clock for a time this autumn, and then being away from the house far more than in the past 4 years, so I think he will need to go to some sort of daycare for a few days each week, and I thought this could pave the way. This is a last chance for me to do something for myself, and top up the family coffers that have been severely depleted since being made redundant 4 years ago, and I will not be made to feel guilty about going for it. I will keep him living at home for as long as possible, but have been the main breadwinner for all of our marriage and am determined to have one last crack at profitable work. So, how do others suggest I play it. What if he absolutely hates the place he goes to? (No real reason why he should, he loved boarding school and National Service, and talking to people, but he now only ever wants to be at home, with people coming to him).