My friend looks after her neighbour who has Alzheimers and/or dementia. It has now come to the point that this lady needs more care than my friend, 80+, is strong enough to provide - currently she is looking after her full time part from the few hours when the neighbour is taken back to her adjacent home for the night - anytime after 5.30 am the neighbour is back. My friend feeds her and looks after her all day and is really exhausted but can't bring herself to contemplate putting the neighbour into a home. There is a room at the Alzheimer's home ready for a live-in carer but my friend is extremely doubtful that the carer would be permitted to even cross the threashold, let alone live-in and be obeyed when it comes to washing and dressing etc. How have other people managed this type of situation? Help thank you.