My husband has mixed dementia He is 89 I am 77 Although we have been married for30 years it has been unhappy due to his abusive and controlling manner I am suffering from depression and anxiety and am desperate for respite of any kind He refuses to give it to me I have begged for help but the only help I can be offered is medication for my mental state to help me to carry on caring for him. How do you persuade him to have residential care so I can begin to get better.