Hello everyone -
We are very new to this and are at the early stages of diagnosis for both my parents (father 90 and mother 92). The real difficluty we have is how to communicate this to them, especially my mother, who isn't aware and thinks it is just my father who has dementia.
We are trying to get things ready so they can stay at home as long as possible but getting them to agree to anything (e.g. moving bedroom downstrairs, shower conversion, lasting power of attorney, getting carers etc) is very very difficult. They can't stand change of any kind.
How to get around it - do we go with what they want and nothing changes or do we go ahead anyway in their best interests and upset them? We have told them that their 'wishes' aren't always the same as 'needs' - they reluctanctly agree then its back to square one when we start to make any changes.
Has anybody been in this spot before and has any advice we'd be very grateful.
We are very new to this and are at the early stages of diagnosis for both my parents (father 90 and mother 92). The real difficluty we have is how to communicate this to them, especially my mother, who isn't aware and thinks it is just my father who has dementia.
We are trying to get things ready so they can stay at home as long as possible but getting them to agree to anything (e.g. moving bedroom downstrairs, shower conversion, lasting power of attorney, getting carers etc) is very very difficult. They can't stand change of any kind.
How to get around it - do we go with what they want and nothing changes or do we go ahead anyway in their best interests and upset them? We have told them that their 'wishes' aren't always the same as 'needs' - they reluctanctly agree then its back to square one when we start to make any changes.
Has anybody been in this spot before and has any advice we'd be very grateful.