Hello all,
My mum has recently moved in with me, so I can look after her, due to the Alz progressing quickly. ( I have both POA's and am the sole attorney)
Alongside the usual challenges, I am struggling with family members offering " helpful advice " directly to mum, meant to be well meaning but creating real concerns .
For example mum is not allowed to drive , has no idea as to time of day, or where she is ( still thinks lives in cornwall which is over 7 hours away now) , still struggling months later with finding way around house, never mind wandering around, but one family member suggested she get an electric bike so can go out and about by herself.. Next thing mum is googling bikes and was just about to buy one.. ,
Mum also has no real control on her finances, no idea how much she is spending and recently before moving up when she lived with her friend gave away alot of money for her to donations / tv competitions ( although I have POA so when she moved up I have gotten control of this ) . The same friend when she came up points out when over watching tv when adds come up about how sad, talking about charities..
We also left mum's cat down with the friend as they had been living together for 15 years , cat elderly, and friend wanted it down there, on the phone she starts talking to mum about how the cat, was crying outside mum old bedroom door, went in, and upset to find bed gone etc.. note the friend who is advanced years too, was all for mum moving up as the demands of looking after her were too much, which completely understand, and I wanted mum up with me, so she can be nearer her son and grandchildren also as couldnt move down there
Sorry for the long post . but how do I approach this with them ? ? should I approach this with them ?? am I making too much of this, it just creates more stress on top of everything else, as its also unsettling for mum, when I have to try and resolve / re-direct her
My mum has recently moved in with me, so I can look after her, due to the Alz progressing quickly. ( I have both POA's and am the sole attorney)
Alongside the usual challenges, I am struggling with family members offering " helpful advice " directly to mum, meant to be well meaning but creating real concerns .
For example mum is not allowed to drive , has no idea as to time of day, or where she is ( still thinks lives in cornwall which is over 7 hours away now) , still struggling months later with finding way around house, never mind wandering around, but one family member suggested she get an electric bike so can go out and about by herself.. Next thing mum is googling bikes and was just about to buy one.. ,
Mum also has no real control on her finances, no idea how much she is spending and recently before moving up when she lived with her friend gave away alot of money for her to donations / tv competitions ( although I have POA so when she moved up I have gotten control of this ) . The same friend when she came up points out when over watching tv when adds come up about how sad, talking about charities..
We also left mum's cat down with the friend as they had been living together for 15 years , cat elderly, and friend wanted it down there, on the phone she starts talking to mum about how the cat, was crying outside mum old bedroom door, went in, and upset to find bed gone etc.. note the friend who is advanced years too, was all for mum moving up as the demands of looking after her were too much, which completely understand, and I wanted mum up with me, so she can be nearer her son and grandchildren also as couldnt move down there
Sorry for the long post . but how do I approach this with them ? ? should I approach this with them ?? am I making too much of this, it just creates more stress on top of everything else, as its also unsettling for mum, when I have to try and resolve / re-direct her