Mum has vascular dementia and is cared for at home. She is 94. I’m not sure what formal stage she is at but varies widely from day to day. Some days she can’t wake up or walk unaided, doesn’t know where she is or who any of us are. Other days she can dress herself, hold a short conversation and join us at a cafe for lunch. Care is so difficult as, on bad days it is too difficult for one of us to lift her and on other days she can manage reasonably well. The biggest problem is her double incontinence. She seems unaware of it and constantly removes Tena pants to wee or worse on furniture, carpets etc. Her bed is soiled most mornings with excretia often smeared around the room or solid clothing ‘put away’. ( fridge, sideboard, behind cupboards etc). Any advice or support would be most welcome.