Hi all, I know there is no "real answer" to this but as mum starts to settle in her new care home I have replaced worrying about her at home on her own, wandering off etc with self indulgent guilt about not visiting often enough. It's a 100 mile, 2 hours each way round trip and I am only managing about once a week, occasionally twice with a full time job, and a husband who has been patient but deserves to see me too but rather then enjoying the time I don't go and making the most of this time I just feel guilty but can't face the journey more then that, my journey is through London and the first 8 miles takes an hour just to clear the London traffic alone! I know though this is my problem though not mums! Also not sure if i should call the home every day I don't go to check in on her or leave them to it knowing they will call me if anything is wrong. I am just moaning! I feel sad when I see her and bad when I don't!