I'm putting this out there because I'm sure I'm not the only one. I find a lot of your stories of care touching, heart warming and emotional but I also find they put me to shame.
I cared for mum the best I could for a year before she had to go into a care home. I am a mother with young children and it wasn't possible. I feel guilty about this every day.
When she first moved into the home I visited most days, then it tailed off to be 3 times a week. Mum has now moved into the stage of not knowing who I am and sleeps a lot. I find it so difficult visiting her. I don't get anything from her. My loving, bubbly, jovial mum isn't really there any more. She's been replaced by a body in a bed who doesn't resemble my mum at all. She doesn't seem to get anything from my visits either.
I visit her once a week now but even then I don't want to. I have to force myself to visit her. Every time I go I'm left feeling traumatised. I feel so guilty but it is so hard. How often do other people visit their loved ones in a nursing home? I rarely see other visitors at mum's place.
Chook x
I cared for mum the best I could for a year before she had to go into a care home. I am a mother with young children and it wasn't possible. I feel guilty about this every day.
When she first moved into the home I visited most days, then it tailed off to be 3 times a week. Mum has now moved into the stage of not knowing who I am and sleeps a lot. I find it so difficult visiting her. I don't get anything from her. My loving, bubbly, jovial mum isn't really there any more. She's been replaced by a body in a bed who doesn't resemble my mum at all. She doesn't seem to get anything from my visits either.
I visit her once a week now but even then I don't want to. I have to force myself to visit her. Every time I go I'm left feeling traumatised. I feel so guilty but it is so hard. How often do other people visit their loved ones in a nursing home? I rarely see other visitors at mum's place.
Chook x