I know the answer to that is a whole lot worse..... Today a new low, what another one! He must have got to the bathroom too late, I followed the smell and found pooh everywhere, all over him and his clothes, over the floor and the bathroom mats, he'd trod in it, used a towel to wipe himself down..... He had his flu jab yesterday, could it be related to that? He was supposed to go to day care for a couple of hours but by the time I'd cleaned everything up and given him another shower it was too late. Thanks to Alzheimer's helpline advice I've been in touch with the council for a Care Needs Assessment and Carer's Assessment (lovely chap on the phone who's been there and really helped). Don't know if they can do anything in a practical sense but I guess it helps to be in the system.