My parents live in a quiet cul de sac in a remote village with no transport links. Dad (age 81) has mid stage dementia and mum is his main carer. Dad does not want to leave the house and neither does he want mum to. We sit with dad whilst one takes mum shopping for time out once a week but he frets and wants her to get back as quick as possible. He began hallucinating before Christmas and it really distressed him. He was put on some anti psychosis drugs but he does appear to be a lot more snappy and mean despite it helping with hallucinations. My mum is getting very depressed, and despite telling dad how she feels he immediately forgets and goes back to being snappy with her. She feels in prison, he feels in prison. We cannot get them to pay for any care, we cannot get them to agree to respite or any help other than me and my sibling. They dont realise that this putting pressure on us too as we have families of our own as well as working full time. Aside from taking dad to GP for another referral to mental health services and a review of his meds, what else can we really do?? We feel totally helpless but if they wont accept help what can we do. It's awful as we feel we should be doing something but we are at a loss as to what we can possibly do!! Anyone else in this situation? How do you cope?