I don't much at all about dementia .. But now my mother is in this home.. And she looks so frail, so 'out of it' most of the time, with small, very small snippets of semi-lucid moments... Well, will this state just go on getting worse and worse for decades... I mean, it's like a living hell isn't it? Just watching her painfully disappear ... And days when she partially takes in my visit... no real conversation.. Until I take my leave, and then she looks at me..."oh, I thought you were staying..."
How long a thing is this dementia? Does it have set stages that it has to go through till the body /mind can take take no more?
justjimjams
I wish I knew. My mother (94 now) had had AD for several years - maybe 6 or 7 - by the time she went into the CH, and she's been there five and a half years now. She can't hold any sort of conversation, she takes no interest or enjoyment in anything (except maybe chocolate when she's awake enough), she's slumped in a chair and asleep most of the time, she's well past joining in any activities (not that she liked joining in even when she was capable), she doesn't want to go out any more, and even if she did she has forgotten how to get in or out of a car, so it wouldn't be possible for me to take her. She barely recognises any of her family except in the vaguest, most foggy way. Her physical health is good, she's not on any meds, so she just goes on and on and on, living this pathetic, pitiful shadow of a life.
Other residents come and go, they deteriorate and die, or get sick of something else and die, or break a hip and die - there is no such escape for my mother, on and on, with every shred of dignity ripped away - it is so cruel.