Hi I wondered if anyone has had recent experience of how long it takes to find a suitable nursing home for an 85 year old female relative with challenging - but not unmanageable - behaviour. She has both Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia - but is otherwise too active for her own good. She will be self funding. I have visited a number of homes already as I wanted to understand the difference between their offerings/capabilities. Ideally I want to find somewhere on the smaller scale, on one level, with nursing and end of life (so we don't have to move her more than once). The one EMI I visited seemed to think my relative would be already too challenging for them - and reading some posts on this forum homes seem increasingly unhappy to take anyone with any potential to be challenging or indeed a back catalogue of challenging behaviour (usually timed with the arrival of a UTI infection). And this is from homes that say they do dementia!!??!!! My aunt has been cared for at home amazingly well by a fantastic live in carer and a carer who gives 14 hours respite a week - we are coming to the end of the road in her own home, and have no choice but to move her in next 6-9 months. I am trying to plan carefully as far ahead as I can. I hope I have enough time.... Thanks for the feedback.