I am at the stage of feeling rather numb about the situation of my 96 year old Mum. She has been lying in bed in her care home for almost 5 months now since her stroke. She is now partially paralysed , dementia advanced( memory gone) and although she has lately been eating a very little each day and still drinking , she is completely skeletal and her skin breaks up requiring dressings all over. She has a pressure relieving mattress. She responds to carers and nurses but very little to me and my brother now, in fact she doesnt know who we are now. She is not suffering physically because of the excellent care she receives and good pain management and anxiety management. She must have a strong heart and is not getting any infections like she used to . She is so frail now so it is hard to understand that she can survive . She sleeps almost all of the time . How long can she exist like this ? It is so cruel. I know I will grieve when she goes but I do feel Ive lost her already