...if a Home is the right one?
How does one know, after many months down the line, if the care is as it should be - given that we are dealing with extreme confusion and dementia, and someone who can't tell us how they are being cared for?
Should someone in the Home have an 'overview' of what is happening to MiL and her day to day care/problems?
Or is it a case of it being normal for staff not to really see the bigger picture, including the manager/deputy manager? Just to see each day as a separate entity?
When we ask questions, nobody knows. Holidays, days off, working in wrong lounge. When we complain, nothing happens - dementia is blamed, but we know it isn't, not all the time.
Who do we turn to? Who actually cares? Should anyone at the Home be taking our concerns seriously? They haven't so far!
Home best we could find, MiL seriously confused day and night. Cared for her with us 10 years but can we go back? I think not, but current situation also not acceptable and the nightmare continues when we thought placement into care would ease at least some of it. How long do you give it before you say 'enough is enough'?
It isn't that we have been unable to complain about various things in a calm, clear and direct manner - we have. Nothing changes.
Help.
How does one know, after many months down the line, if the care is as it should be - given that we are dealing with extreme confusion and dementia, and someone who can't tell us how they are being cared for?
Should someone in the Home have an 'overview' of what is happening to MiL and her day to day care/problems?
Or is it a case of it being normal for staff not to really see the bigger picture, including the manager/deputy manager? Just to see each day as a separate entity?
When we ask questions, nobody knows. Holidays, days off, working in wrong lounge. When we complain, nothing happens - dementia is blamed, but we know it isn't, not all the time.
Who do we turn to? Who actually cares? Should anyone at the Home be taking our concerns seriously? They haven't so far!
Home best we could find, MiL seriously confused day and night. Cared for her with us 10 years but can we go back? I think not, but current situation also not acceptable and the nightmare continues when we thought placement into care would ease at least some of it. How long do you give it before you say 'enough is enough'?
It isn't that we have been unable to complain about various things in a calm, clear and direct manner - we have. Nothing changes.
Help.