I had many years as a teacher of primary school age children and it has been of great assistance in managing my husband. - most of the time but we have our bad days too. I sometimes think that people with dementia often develop childlike behaviour and I use all my know how gained from my time as a teacher, a parent and a grandparent, and as a nanny to families in my years in UK. I had a lot of teaching experience in the toughest school in our city and it was essential to set boundaries for those kids. So now I set boundaries for my husband and am fortunate that he still is functioning well enough to to understand that. The thing that helps most with my husband is my tone of voice. He responds much better if I can keep my requests/instructions at a level of normal conversation. As soon as I show annoyance, frustration or stress, he tunes in immediately and then proceeds to find ways to push my buttons! Just the same as kids do. But I consider that my training and experience have been my greatest asset in the years since my husband was diagnosed. No one comes prepared to cope with this role and there are no manuals or DIY books, and none of the fact sheets are a perfect fit for all the people who have dementia in all shapes and forms. But I do what I do so I can survive and of course it makes things better for him, even if he cannot see that.