How do you get someone to Cary on not just packup

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by vannesser, Jun 18, 2019.

  1. vannesser

    vannesser Registered User

    Apr 4, 2016
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    oh as vassal .some form of Parkinson’s that’s not as bad as it was .
    Had chest infecshion /newmoneya at begging of year 2 week in hospital
    After that as trouble getting dresses and in contenant. needs help with getting up and down and walking.

    For past 3 week he don’t won’t to go out
    Or won’t anyone else family members to watch him if I need to go out to places he can not go at pressant .to help him .he says he wonts to die. As it better then this I tell him he needs to just try nd I tell him every day that I am here to help and doing all I can.
    I am getting to the point of thinking am I doing something wrong or is it him .

    We back under hospital again do to growth up his nose had biopsy on it Monday hoping on results on Friday I worid and I no he is as he said he not going in hospital ever again .
     
  2. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,564
    Yorkshire
    hi @vannesser
    it's not that you are doing anything wrong, and it's not your OH as such, it's sadly that the dementia is affecting him more
    do let your GP know how he is feeling and what he has said ... it may be that he is depressed and if so some meds may help

    do you have some home care visits to help you with his personal care ... contact your Local Authority Adult Serices to ask for an Occupational Therapist to visit to siggest aids and adaptions to help with his mobility

    and keep having some time for yourself ... it's good that family are visiting so you can go out .. he may not like it, but you need it
     
  3. vannesser

    vannesser Registered User

    Apr 4, 2016
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    Thank you got stuff in to help getting up and walking aids . Dident realis thay the elitist illness can change someone as soon as
     
  4. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    9,638
    Female
    South coast
    Im sorry things are happening so fast @vannesser
    Sometimes you can get very fast changes, especially if they have vascular dementia, which often goes down in steps.
    Im glad you have got help.

    Dont give up going out. People with dementia often rely on one person and get upset when they cant see them, but your sister will look after him and make sure he is OK.
     
  5. vannesser

    vannesser Registered User

    Apr 4, 2016
    245
    Thank you it just seams that for nearly 3 year things where going slow not mutch happening then all this from January .but will still try and go out give me brack a few hours a week thank you
     
  6. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    9,638
    Female
    South coast
    Yes, this is probably one of those sudden steps down.
     

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