My Nan was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s over 2 years ago, she lived at home and my grandad became her main carer along with myself and my mum. Things such as feeding herself and personal care she can do herself but she quickly lost the concept of what was going on around her and her short term memory deteriorated.
When lockdown began my grandad became isolated with just my Nan and from this point my Nans condition spiralled and deteriorated very quickly with her becoming violent and aggressive and causing a lot of strain on my grandad. We fought and fought to get her into respite and she was in for 6 weeks initially, we then had her home but after 12 hours things had got bad again my grandad couldn’t cope and we managed to get her back into the same home.
he now is determined he’s getting her home, she is becoming very challenging, the social worker, manager and staff of the home and us are all trying to explain to him it would not be safe for him or for her and he will not be able to meet her needs but he shuts down and doesn’t want to listen. He thinks she’s only like this because she’s in there and will be better at home, his heart is ruling his head. We’ve even looked into using the POA my mum and uncle have but they have no rights as my grandad has equal POAso he can overrule.
is there anything we can do to get through to him/ any support that could explain to him?
When lockdown began my grandad became isolated with just my Nan and from this point my Nans condition spiralled and deteriorated very quickly with her becoming violent and aggressive and causing a lot of strain on my grandad. We fought and fought to get her into respite and she was in for 6 weeks initially, we then had her home but after 12 hours things had got bad again my grandad couldn’t cope and we managed to get her back into the same home.
he now is determined he’s getting her home, she is becoming very challenging, the social worker, manager and staff of the home and us are all trying to explain to him it would not be safe for him or for her and he will not be able to meet her needs but he shuts down and doesn’t want to listen. He thinks she’s only like this because she’s in there and will be better at home, his heart is ruling his head. We’ve even looked into using the POA my mum and uncle have but they have no rights as my grandad has equal POAso he can overrule.
is there anything we can do to get through to him/ any support that could explain to him?