Hi everyone
It has been a while since I posted on this site but I have been dropping in now and again.
Mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers about a year ago following what has been a few years of hell......no need to go into what she was dong, saying etc as you have all been there so will understand.
To cut a very long story short mum was sectioned in November and until last week was still in hospital and as a family we were so sad to see this happen....although we knew it was coming (unlike the so called health professionals who told me that morning there was nothing wrong with mum!!) I guess like our children we all know our relatives better than anyone else.
Anyway, we found a fabulous nursing home for mum after months of searching and waiting on a room and mum went into the nursing home last week (11th February). Again no point in going into that day suffice to say it was pretty traumatic and one I wouldn't want to repeat ever again!
My dilemma is that the day before mum went into the home her older sister died very suddenly so we decided not to tell mum as we felt this would upset her at a time when she obviously was upset with the move. Tomorrow is my aunts funeral and mum knows nothing about it and although I know its probably for the best that she isn't told I feel guilty as if I am keeping a secret from her. My other aunt and uncle are going to visit mum tomorrow with me after the funeral and I have asked them (and they agree) not to tell mum about her other sister. They haven't seen mum in the home yet.
I should have said mum is a very fit 83 year old who has never been ill for as long as I can remember and is on no medication.
So do I tell mum about her sister and if so when would be appropriate? I don't want to upset her unnecessarily if she will just forget anyway?
Thanks in advance
Linda x
It has been a while since I posted on this site but I have been dropping in now and again.
Mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers about a year ago following what has been a few years of hell......no need to go into what she was dong, saying etc as you have all been there so will understand.
To cut a very long story short mum was sectioned in November and until last week was still in hospital and as a family we were so sad to see this happen....although we knew it was coming (unlike the so called health professionals who told me that morning there was nothing wrong with mum!!) I guess like our children we all know our relatives better than anyone else.
Anyway, we found a fabulous nursing home for mum after months of searching and waiting on a room and mum went into the nursing home last week (11th February). Again no point in going into that day suffice to say it was pretty traumatic and one I wouldn't want to repeat ever again!
My dilemma is that the day before mum went into the home her older sister died very suddenly so we decided not to tell mum as we felt this would upset her at a time when she obviously was upset with the move. Tomorrow is my aunts funeral and mum knows nothing about it and although I know its probably for the best that she isn't told I feel guilty as if I am keeping a secret from her. My other aunt and uncle are going to visit mum tomorrow with me after the funeral and I have asked them (and they agree) not to tell mum about her other sister. They haven't seen mum in the home yet.
I should have said mum is a very fit 83 year old who has never been ill for as long as I can remember and is on no medication.
So do I tell mum about her sister and if so when would be appropriate? I don't want to upset her unnecessarily if she will just forget anyway?
Thanks in advance
Linda x