Hmmm mixed bag of comments!
Well welcome Thorn anyway, i personally think that you are right to seek out early advice, for many of us we seekit out too late. Reading anyting on here at the TP forum, will be informative, witty and downright heartbreaking.
I can understand your thoughts that you may have thought this was just old age, my father was into his 50's before I was born, and i grew up with basically a pensioner for a father, i think looking at your brothers age and possibly your own that you did not think that at your age you would be dealing with this, and hopefully it was just an age thing, but in actuality, and this is not a diagnosis, most of the things you have said is the on set of dementia, which you are obviously aware that it might be or you not be on this forum.
What you need to do, ia try to get to see your dr, i know its difficult even for those who CAN make appointments. Tell the receptionist if they deem to ask, that its confidential. Explain to dr, ask for all relevant help and if they are unwilling, go to social work, local council for info on who may have the info on assesments, these can be self referred in some areas, if you can find the right way round it.
As for whats happening in the house, i have a great system for dusting - hairdryer at one end of dining table/hearth/relevant dusty places, and blow it one end, next week blow it back. Its dust who cares, if mum can sign her name in it, great - its better than what she can do with pen and paper
Honestly housework is not relevant, yes keeping place livable is great, but getting out and about, take him tot he cinema, theatre, musical events, whatever his interests are, just do it. By non ironable clothing (i live in linen, wash hang up dry wear, heat of body drops creases out!)
Hire some swashbuckling sword movies, sit down with some popcorn and just enjoy.
sleep when he does, work when you can, housework can wait!
I know non of this is relevant, but we all have to start some where, and if this forum helps you to sort out your priorities then great, but no one on here should be told that they are waisting time, as we dont know how things will ever be the VERY NEXT DAY!
take care, and tell surgery that its an emergency, do anything to get that appointment, remember all surgeries have a few appointments aside for this, and in your case if you feel it has come to that time then an emergency it is!
best regards,
iMac
p.s. apologies for spelling mistakes, i know there are but cant be arsed sorting them, lol.