1. Expert Q&A: Living well as a carer - Thurs 29 August, 3-4pm

    As a carer for a person living with dementia, the needs of the person you care for will often come before your own. You may experience a range of difficult emotions and you may not have the time to do all the things you need to do. Caring can have a big impact on both your mental and physical health, as well as your overall wellbeing.

    Angelo, our Knowledge Officer (Wellbeing) is our expert on this topic. He will be here to answer your questions on Thursday 29 August between 3-4pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

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Discussion in 'Welcome and how to use Dementia Talking Point' started by Polly H, Jan 12, 2010.

  1. Polly H

    Polly H Registered User

    Nov 26, 2009
    99
    Hello,

    I've been using the Talk site since November 2009 but I'm still uncertain if I'm doing things right.

    I sent a couple of private messages recently to people who had responded to my posts but they don't seem to be there:confused: Have I done something wrong?

    Polly H
     
  2. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,429
    Polly - when you say "not there" do you mean when you go to your Private Message screen, Jump to Folder Outbox they aren't there? Or is it possible that instead of sending them as private messages, you've sent them as visitor messages (in which case they will appear under the person's profile).
     
  3. Polly H

    Polly H Registered User

    Nov 26, 2009
    99
    Hi Jennifer,

    I'm not sure.... I'll go and look.

    I'm useless with technology and feel so stressed out at the moment I'm paranoid I've upset someone (unwittingly)

    Back in a moment.

    Polly H
     
  4. Polly H

    Polly H Registered User

    Nov 26, 2009
    99
    Sorry, Jennifer I don't know how to check this.

    Polly H
     
  5. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,429
    Well I can assure you that this isn't the result of upsetting anyone.

    Just hold on a sec and I'll set up a series of pictures so you can see how to do this.
     
  6. Polly H

    Polly H Registered User

    Nov 26, 2009
    99
    OK Thankyou
     
  7. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,429
    First of all in , the right hand top corner of the screen you'll see something like this. Obviously it will be your username not mine :) Click on the Private Messages link

    Picture 5.png

    Then you'll come to a screen like this Picture 4.png

    See the Jump to Folder: ?

    Use the arrow key to go to Sent Items so it looks like this
    Picture 6.png

    At this point you'll see all the messages you have sent. If you're still having problems (or this isn't clear, which it might not be :D) post again.
     
  8. Polly H

    Polly H Registered User

    Nov 26, 2009
    99
    Thanks Jennifer,

    Got this.... checked the box says I have "0" In and "0" sent.

    Maybe I did something wrong and the emails never went? What do you think?

    Polly H
     
  9. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,429
    Well definitely they didn't go. Are you sure you didn't simply answer a post on the forum?

    Here's how to find out: click on your name in this thread like so

    Picture 7.png

    this will give you a popup like this

    Picture 8.png

    and when you choose Find all posts by Polly H you'll get this

    Picture 9.png


    This is a list of all the posts you have made. (P.s. ignore the delivery confirmation stuff at the bottom of the screen - that's just rubbish from MY screen)
     
  10. Bookworm

    Bookworm Registered User

    Jan 30, 2009
    2,581
    Co. Derry
    Jennifer - you deserve a medal - I'm sure Polly will feel really welcome now! Looking forward to getting to know you Polly......
     
  11. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,429
    Thanks Sue, but that's what I'm here for.

    Polly - the only other suggestion I have is that you "may" have sent "visitor" messages rather than "private" messages. If that's the case, you need to click on the name of the person you thought you'd sent a message to and get to their profile page which is where visitor messages show up. Personally, I hate visitor messages because they cause no end of problems and there is no easy way to check them. Mutter, mutter, mumble, mumble.
     
  12. dancer84

    dancer84 Registered User

    Dec 24, 2009
    60
    North East Eangland
    Thanks Jennifer,
    That has been helpful to me too, as I have also found it quite difficult to get used to. There seems to be so many replies to some of the threads, which is great,but it takes quite a bit of wading through everything.
    Dancer84
     
  13. Polly H

    Polly H Registered User

    Nov 26, 2009
    99
    Hello again Jennifer.

    First of all, thank you Sue. You made me smile through my tears. (A very bad day today).

    I've checked the "visitor private messages". Nothing there. I do hope I haven't sent it onto the "board". The reason for sending a "private message" is that I'm really worried that my siblings (who have EPA) will see it and recognise it from the context. One of the "privage messages" was for Sandy who is a moderator. Is it possible to check if she got it?

    Polly H
     
  14. Bookworm

    Bookworm Registered User

    Jan 30, 2009
    2,581
    Co. Derry
    Polly - I checked all your posts & they do not seem very radical or exposing (others may have other opinions - but I would not be too worried & I'm over cautious) - I know from them your dad's age & your worries about medications & that not everyone involved agrees - but doubt there is anything very contentious. You did at one point say you were sending Sandy something - but what you said openly to Sandy is minimal. So I think you could probably stop worrying - water under the bridge so to speak. Just take care in future. & maybe now you are fully fledged & coached - try putting slightly more private stuff in Tearoom - can't be seen there except by members. Still need to be careful even there perhaps if there is strife.

    PS - sorry such a bad day for you
     

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  15. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,429
    Absolutely - I'll check with her.
     
  16. Polly H

    Polly H Registered User

    Nov 26, 2009
    99
    Thanks Sue, very reassuring

    Love the picture!

    Polly H (x)
     
  17. Polly H

    Polly H Registered User

    Nov 26, 2009
    99
    Sorry "Bookworm" my last message was meant for you. My head is a shed!

    Polly H
     
  18. Bookworm

    Bookworm Registered User

    Jan 30, 2009
    2,581
    Co. Derry
    Hi Polly - I'm Sue as well as Bookworm. I'm mainly Sue to regulars (That is why I've identified myself by first name in signature). I think you are doing fine - keep at it - the more you interact the more skilled you become & as someone said - once you start helping others, you start being stronger yourself - so we need Polly H here, Sue x
     
  19. Sandy

    Sandy Registered User

    Mar 23, 2005
    6,847
    Hi Polly,

    No I did not get a private message from you.

    And as I have Visitor Messages turned off, you couldn't have sent me one of those (I don't like VM's - too easily confused with PM's).

    I'll send you a PM now and maybe that will make it easier to see how to send one by replying to mine.

    You might want to look at the FAQ on PM's, but to be honest, it's just the standard FAQ that comes with the forum software and doesn't have pictures, so isn't the most user-friendly:

    http://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/faq.php?faq=vb3_user_profile#faq_vb3_private_messages

    Take care,
     

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