Hi, I'm new here and wondered if anyone can give me some advice.
My family are friends with an older couple both in their eighties. The lady has dementia and has had for around 2-3 years. I wasn't aware how ill she was as I didn't have regular contact and assumed she was having appropriate treatment. Her husband about 2 years ago became ill which ended in him having a leg amputated. Recently I have driven him to a couple of appointments and when he is out the house he pours out the terrible existence he and she are living. Sorry to go on but I feel I am the only person he talks to and I know I need to help them. They both are effectively trapped in the house at the moment. I think she has had an assessment but nothing has happened. She is aggressive verbally wears the same clothes constantly asking the same questions as she forgets. He does all the cooking and taking care of house. Sorry had to get that off my chest, should I print off fact/help sheets and initiate some sort of action plan, he is a very proud man. How do you think he would react? thankyou
My family are friends with an older couple both in their eighties. The lady has dementia and has had for around 2-3 years. I wasn't aware how ill she was as I didn't have regular contact and assumed she was having appropriate treatment. Her husband about 2 years ago became ill which ended in him having a leg amputated. Recently I have driven him to a couple of appointments and when he is out the house he pours out the terrible existence he and she are living. Sorry to go on but I feel I am the only person he talks to and I know I need to help them. They both are effectively trapped in the house at the moment. I think she has had an assessment but nothing has happened. She is aggressive verbally wears the same clothes constantly asking the same questions as she forgets. He does all the cooking and taking care of house. Sorry had to get that off my chest, should I print off fact/help sheets and initiate some sort of action plan, he is a very proud man. How do you think he would react? thankyou