How do I get some help?

Discussion in 'Middle - later stages of dementia' started by Rosserk, Jul 17, 2019.

  1. Rosserk

    Rosserk Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    99
    My mum lives with me and has just been diagnosed with dementia which has progressed at an alarming rate. I thought the Doctor would contact Social Services and they would visit and put a care package in place. I’ve had a letter from the mental health team who are coming on Friday but I haven’t heard anything from anyone else. I have no idea where to start and I’m finding it extremely difficult to cope.

    I need to get control of her finances so I can pay for things my Father needs, he is also in a care home and all though he’s fully funded he needs personal items and things like, clothes, hair cuts and a chiropodist to look after his feet. I don’t have power of attorney.
     
  2. nae sporran

    nae sporran Volunteer Host

    Oct 29, 2014
    5,813
    Male
    Bristol
    Contact your local Social Services and tell them the situation. Ask for an urgent care needs assessment and a carers assessment, Rosserk. Does your mum have enough mental capacity to grant you POA, and would she do so. Your GP might charge a fee to sign the forms, but we got my OH's chiropodist to do it and she was happy to do so without charge. AgeUK were very helpful in advising us on the process.
     
  3. nellbelles

    nellbelles Volunteer Host

    Nov 6, 2008
    8,373
    leicester
    Hi I think you need to get POA and contact SS for an urgent assessment
    I hope you can be there Friday for the the mental health team and make sure they know all that is happening.
    Your Fathers finances should be separate from your Mothers.
     
  4. Rosserk

    Rosserk Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    99
    Hi thanks for the advice

    My mother definitely doesn’t have mental capacity. I think I’m going to have to go down the guardianship route because I’m too late to get POA.
     
  5. Rosserk

    Rosserk Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    99
    My mother has control of her and my fathers joint finances. I’m too late to get POA. I didn’t realise I could call and request an assessment I thought they had to be informed by a doctor. Thanks I will give them a call.
     

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