Hi - bad day. Husband knows it me and is very critical of my behaviour. Accuse me of all sorts of thing - sleeping with men, going out all night, not caring for him. When I 'change' into the woman or man that looks after him - cooks for him, sits with him all evening he is always very polite. Please can someone tell me how to handle the times when they know its you but are angry about all the times you 'disappear'. He is not violent and never suggests violence but he is angry and wants it to stop or to end - and it does get to the point when I think would that be the best of both of us. But as wife I have a responsibility to care/look after him regardless of how bad it gets.