Hello Absey
Welcome to TP
Am sorry you are all going thro this hell.
To be told by gp you just have to ride out violent episodes out, is unhelpful in the extreme, it may be that dads meds need to be changed to a different one as it seems the one he is on is not helping that much .
I dont have much experience with this but others here do , they will be along later im sure.
You and your mums lack of sleep makes it so much harder for you to cope , and will make u both ill ,
As sandy said in your blog , contact the Alzheimers society, as they may have an outreach worker in your area .
Id also advise you to contact Admiral Nurses , they are few of them but they do have a national helpline ,you maybe lucky to have one in your part of kent like I am here.
They specialists in dementia.
Do contact Adult social services yourselves , you should have have had assessments done for you and your dads needs , (dont b afraid to contact them ,they certainly WILL NOT whip dad away into a home ect , )
I also found Age uk (formally Age Concern ) very good mum was unable to go to there day centre , but I had a lovely lady out once a month so i could offload , n they do lots more
Hope this helps