Mum is continually wanting her mum, or her mum and dad, or wanting to go 'home'.
In the past I've explained how she hasn't lived there for 56 years, how her mum died about 12 years ago, her dad 33 years ago, just before I got married. She is now getting distressed. for example when I arrived at her house to pick her up for Christmas she was unsure whether to go with me (I'm her eldest daughter, live near and see her every day at least) In the end we agreed she'd ring her mum from my house. Later she wanted to take her things to show her mum and dad. Yesterday she was upset when I explained they'd died and I felt bad about telling her. Then in the next breath she was planning their Christmas presnts.
What do other people on TP do ?
How do I explain................or don't I?
Also she has lived in her bungelow since 1991, she chose it herself and was thrilled with it, but now believes its somewhere she is staying in and will soon return home to her childhood home and mum and dad. The home she refers to was sold to a distant family member and she has an idea someone is living in it now, but then again she is ready to go back to mums for comfort.
Once after an explanation she asked where her mum and dad were buried..should I take her there (the ashes were put in an old family plot so it won't say their names)? Should I find an old photo to put flowers by as my aunt does? Or is she better living with her happier memories?
Zadok
In the past I've explained how she hasn't lived there for 56 years, how her mum died about 12 years ago, her dad 33 years ago, just before I got married. She is now getting distressed. for example when I arrived at her house to pick her up for Christmas she was unsure whether to go with me (I'm her eldest daughter, live near and see her every day at least) In the end we agreed she'd ring her mum from my house. Later she wanted to take her things to show her mum and dad. Yesterday she was upset when I explained they'd died and I felt bad about telling her. Then in the next breath she was planning their Christmas presnts.
What do other people on TP do ?
How do I explain................or don't I?
Also she has lived in her bungelow since 1991, she chose it herself and was thrilled with it, but now believes its somewhere she is staying in and will soon return home to her childhood home and mum and dad. The home she refers to was sold to a distant family member and she has an idea someone is living in it now, but then again she is ready to go back to mums for comfort.
Once after an explanation she asked where her mum and dad were buried..should I take her there (the ashes were put in an old family plot so it won't say their names)? Should I find an old photo to put flowers by as my aunt does? Or is she better living with her happier memories?
Zadok
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