My hubby has spent the last 10 days in respite, whilst I had a holiday break with my daughter. On my return home, I came into chaos. Evidently he has broken down a gate and cracked a a window in his endeavour to get out, and generally been agitated and very unsettled. Home had to get Consultant Pschyatrist and Mental Health Nurse in, and along with the carers in the home they tried to calm him down. They did their upmost to control the situation, but in the end had to resort to prescribing anti psychotic drugs to control his anxiety. He has been home over a week now, and still unsettled. Our own GP has had words with me, saying the Home couldn't cope really and wondered hw I could possibly cope. They are saying it is now time to consider residential care where he can get 24 hr care. I don't know what to do for the best, he is a very complex case (according to the Pros; and his needs are more than I can deal with. However, how do I get around this, he has still that little spark in his brain somewhere and is fighting against it. Is now the time to make a decision, b ut I do not want him to be in a Care Home for years and years, and this is where the guilt starts, Why cant I cope, am I doing something wrong is handling the situation, and how far along the line is he......... Oh I am in such a turmoil and worried sick about everything, and a little scared as he is quite strong and since he has been home has pulled a panel off in the bathroom furniture. In despair, has anyone experienced anything like this and can give me some advice please.