Hi all
My mum lives on her own and regularly complains that she's bored and never sees anyone. (I know this isn't entirely true, because she forgets people have been), but she'd like to get to know someone, maybe go out for a coffee and have a bit more regular contact. I do my bit but it's exhausting trying to 'entertain' her having done hundreds of miles to get to see her in the first place; plus all the associated domestic cr*p: washing, ironing etc. I've suggested hobbies she's done in the past (she insists she still does them, but doesn't). And if I come up with any new ideas I get my head ripped off. I've tried to get her on to the buddy scheme with a local charity but she blew the woman out saying she didn't need anyone. I'm also trying to coax her into going to a local community centre, although I've been building up to this for months because, as we all know, they can be very contrary! One minute she thinks it's a great idea and the next she says I'm persecuting her. Then she's bored! Aggh! What does anyone else out there do? And how did/have you managed someone in the early stages when motivation is plummeting like a stone but the independent streak bites every time you try anything? Tricky, eh?
Thanks for any replies!
My mum lives on her own and regularly complains that she's bored and never sees anyone. (I know this isn't entirely true, because she forgets people have been), but she'd like to get to know someone, maybe go out for a coffee and have a bit more regular contact. I do my bit but it's exhausting trying to 'entertain' her having done hundreds of miles to get to see her in the first place; plus all the associated domestic cr*p: washing, ironing etc. I've suggested hobbies she's done in the past (she insists she still does them, but doesn't). And if I come up with any new ideas I get my head ripped off. I've tried to get her on to the buddy scheme with a local charity but she blew the woman out saying she didn't need anyone. I'm also trying to coax her into going to a local community centre, although I've been building up to this for months because, as we all know, they can be very contrary! One minute she thinks it's a great idea and the next she says I'm persecuting her. Then she's bored! Aggh! What does anyone else out there do? And how did/have you managed someone in the early stages when motivation is plummeting like a stone but the independent streak bites every time you try anything? Tricky, eh?
Thanks for any replies!