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anxious annie

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Jan 2, 2019
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Hi Annielou
Thank you for your good wishes. I have been keeping up with your posts and see your journey is up and down. I hope that when things are more normal again, that there are more good times xx
 

Pete1

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Jul 16, 2019
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Hi @anxious annie, good to hear you will be able to visit Mum - that will be great for you all I'm sure.

The clearing is a mammoth and emotional job - good luck with that. All the best.
 

jugglingmum

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Jan 5, 2014
5,816
Chester
I hope the visit goes well.

Hopefully starting the house clearance will feel like a step forward, even though it is such a difficult thing to do
 

anxious annie

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Jan 2, 2019
306
Thanks @jugglingmum
I'm so looking forward to seeing mum.
I know clearing the house will be very emotional, but sadly we need to sell it to pay care home fees, and would like to think another family will move in and have a lovely time, as mum and dad did in the past.
 

anxious annie

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Jan 2, 2019
306
Hi @Sirena
That was so kind to say. Everyone is so supportive on TP. I don't know how I would have coped without all the advice and good wishes on here.
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
2,302
South East
I chickened our really when clearing mum & dads home , I threw away obvious rubbish but the rest of it I boxed up and bought home , I did get a skip and gradually go through boxes and with some encouragement from husband I threw a lot away, we still have boxes and boxes in our thankfully large loft , he keeps reminding me I should have a sort through but I feel I can’t do much more whilst mum is still here . It was sad to think of their house sitting empty so I was glad when it was sold and the new people are loving it and making it their own. Hope you get through the process ok , and enjoy your visit to Mum .
 

anxious annie

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Jan 2, 2019
306
Thanks @Woo2
It will be lovely to see mum, but the prospect of sorting the house is daunting.
We will have to start with a general tidy up and declutter so the house can be put on the market. It will take several visits and skips to empty.
 

anxious annie

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Jan 2, 2019
306
Hi all,
I am sitting in the garden at my sisters as we decided to spend the weekend here and travel back tomorrow since we had got in the clearing groove!
It was so lovely to see mum, we were allowed 2 visits as they knew we have to travel a distance and can't come as often as we would like. It was in the care home garden , we had to sit 2 metres away, but didn't have to wear masks. Mum was delighted to see us and understood we couldn't hug because of the virus. Conversation was repetitive, but mum looked really well. She was in a wheelchair because the part of the garden we were in was uneven, but staff said she is recovering so well after her op.
I met up with 3 estate agents, on Tuesday and my sister and I decided which one we will go with . She will call in to give keys so they can come to take photos later this week. We spent the rest of the week to and fro to the tidy tip and the charity shop in the town which has now opened. We also got a skip yesterday and my sister and husband helped to clear the garage and a few other bits with us. We also cleared the garden of rubbish. The house now looks so much tidier and less cluttered. But we are exhausted!
There is still so much more to do.... and I know it will be much more emotional as it will be photos, personal objects etc which at the moment are just tidied away in drawers so the house isn't cluttered for viewings.
I have to sort a solicitor this week so that we can push things on. It's been a whirlwind but we wanted to get things moving to take advantage, of hopefully more interest whilst stamp duty limit has been raised.
I'm due to go back to see mum, and for more clearing next month, so just hope we can get the house on the market soon.
 

annielou

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Sep 27, 2019
1,447
Yorkshire
So glad you got to see your mum and she is recovering well that must be a relief. x Well done on all the clearing and sorting I hope all goes smoothly and it's on the market and you get an offer soon. 🤞
 

MartinWL

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Jun 12, 2020
88
I had a lot of problems getting my dad to eat. He would always say he would have it later but he wouldn't or he would just say he wasn't hungry even if he was.

Now I give him no choices, I just make his meal, put it on a tray and he eats it, every bit. Half hour later I give him his pudding, again no choices and he eats that too.
Quite right, I do the same when present, and ask the carers to the same when I am not there.
 

anxious annie

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Jan 2, 2019
306
Hi All
Not very much to report. The house went on the market towards the end of July and have had a couple of viewings, but no offers yet. Early days , good news that stamp duty freeze may encourage buyers, but lots of uncertainty about job security so not sure how this will affect things.
Will be doing more clearing when I go back later this month and popping in to see the solicitor to sort some things so all will be ready to go if we do get an offer.
Hoping the good weather continues so we can see mum in the garden again as am not sure what will happen about indoor visits.