- Jul 16, 2019
Hi @anxious annie, when I realised Mum could not longer live safely at home with a significant care package I took the decision for residential care. We did visit the home together and I also (with permission of the accompanying manager) took pictures to show Mum later (by the time we got home she had no recollection of the visit), it was actually quite reassuring for her seeing the pictures with me telling her what other activities they had. Like @canary Mum actually had a much richer quality of life with more contact and activities, and to my surprise improved quite significantly (no longer agitated/frightened and put on weight that she had lost). I ended up kicking myself that I had vehemently resisted this option for sometime as it wasn't something, in her healthy state, that Mum wanted as she had experienced my Dad in residential care with dementia. What I will say, the relief for me personally was absolutely huge - for the year before I slept with my phone by my side (calls at three in the morning etc) and the constant worry of whether she was safe had actually made me quite poorly, which in the eye of the storm I had refused to recognise, I visited her every day in the care home and it was (on the whole) a pleasant experience where I could chat and show her photos and old family films without the worry of having to spend my time reassuring and sorting problems. I hope all goes well on Thursday, keep posting.