My husband went into a care home three weeks ago. He hasn't been settling very well at all and is displaying repetitive undressing and redressing. Every day his room has to be deep cleaned because of toileting problems, he is apparently getting faeces all over his room. I find this very distressing because he wasn't doing this before he went into care. I am not blaming the care home because the quality of care is very good. Today he told me that he doesn't need me and I don't need him. He has nothing and I have everything. The way he looked at me was the way someone looks who hates you. I became very upset and finished up telling him I was going because he was upsetting me and I couldn't cope with him. I said things I should never have said and I now feel so bad and disappointed with myself. He can't help what he does and says but I can. Today I put on a shameful performance and if I rot in hell for eternity it wouldn't be punishment enough. This man is the man I love, a wonderful husband and father, how could I behave so badly.