Hi, I have just found out that my dear old dad, of 80 years, has Alzheimers. He also has Prostate cancer, and has been battling with that for the last 12 years. Im so angry at the moment. we knew things were not good with dad, as all the little problems, were just kind of getting more regular, things went under the grill, and not in the oven, freezer stuff kept in the fridge, not recalling names, dates and such. Dad lives alone, in a warden controlled(only in the day) place.Now, im worried that we may need to get him better cared for as this problem worsens... i really am in shock to finally know that he has this illness,and it has a name... its not that he is just a bit 'batty'.. am i allowed to call it an illness!? I feel so angry. with me... with him.. with everyone! am i normal, hey, what is normal! im the baby of 5 kids, (even tho iam 41) and my sister is away on holiday... do i tell her, or should i wait til she gets home.. waiting seems kinder?? will she see it that way.. god, i feel so empty, and ive not yet spoken to dad about it...... he just seems to smile and say super, smashing!! please tell me that im 'normal?'