I haven't posted much recently and it has mainly concerned my MIL who has late stage dementia/Alz. She is now very well cared for in a nursing home locally. It's my FIL that is the problem. We have moved him into rented accommodation near to us. So we are no longer trying to do everything from 200 miles away.
Now MIL is being cared for we realise how bad my FIL has become: he hasn't showered since he's been here (months), he is wearing the clothes he was in over Christmas plus he does no cleaning and refuses to change his bedclothes. I've tried to introduce a cleaner but he stubbornly refuses and says he likes to do his own housework!!! He obviously believes he does it.
My dilemma is do I leave him to his own devices (and possibly wrath of his landlord) and let it descend into the dire mess his other house was in?
Do I sneak in and do it all on Sunday when he's out with my hubbie and possibly cause ructions if he notices? (I do have my own work, house and family to look after).
Is there another option?
To be honest, I'm not feeling particularly charitable towards him as he can be pretty belligerent and unhelpful at the best of times but that guilt monster is there, on my shoulder, tweaking my ear .....
J
Now MIL is being cared for we realise how bad my FIL has become: he hasn't showered since he's been here (months), he is wearing the clothes he was in over Christmas plus he does no cleaning and refuses to change his bedclothes. I've tried to introduce a cleaner but he stubbornly refuses and says he likes to do his own housework!!! He obviously believes he does it.
My dilemma is do I leave him to his own devices (and possibly wrath of his landlord) and let it descend into the dire mess his other house was in?
Do I sneak in and do it all on Sunday when he's out with my hubbie and possibly cause ructions if he notices? (I do have my own work, house and family to look after).
Is there another option?
To be honest, I'm not feeling particularly charitable towards him as he can be pretty belligerent and unhelpful at the best of times but that guilt monster is there, on my shoulder, tweaking my ear .....
J