Hi. Mum recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s but she’s not really accepting the situation. She’s quite physically able but noticed she’s not on top of household cleaning as much as she was. Any advice on how to offer my help without her taking offence. I’ve mentioned a few things but she gets huffy with me.
Hi
Yep offers of help are usually not received well lol. I think someone further down the thread said about being a bit sneaky if you like. I think you might have to do otherwise like with my Dad he goes quite stroppy. It might be that it is saying you can't do it and that is why the offers of help get rejected . Depends on the person's awareness.
I might go and make a cup of coffee for Dad and quickly wipe the kitchen work tops over, empty the bin and check the fridge and freezer, I take photos of what Dad has in and send them to my sibling so she can see what he might need shopping wise and also so we can see what might have been eaten or not. Dad just waits for his coffee for ages ? but since he has no sort of timing he thinks I have been a few minutes. If I go to the loo I have left the cleaning stuff in there under the sink so I just do that whilst in the bathroom. Same if he asks me to take his clothes upstairs I will change his bed and shove the washing in the back of the car lol.
I know for a fact he has had the same socks on for at least two months as I have taken to looking at the pattern on them. He blamed his other shoes for a recent fall so I noticed he had somehow managed to get a really uncomfortable looking pair on and lace those up! I think maybe if he goes to the chiropodist soon I could take my chances and say about washing his feet and changing his socks so the poor woman doesn't have to tackle them but we will see. Not going to push it too much. Still learning to pick what to deal with and what to leave alone..
Take Care xx