It is hurtful though I know, unfortunately I have no other relatives, apart from my own 2 lovely children, just the families of my sisters and not much contact there either, glad that you have wider family.
Our relatives in Malaysia have no idea what is going on but they were concerned about me being on my own and when dad was ill they were hoping that my brothers were helping. Once I am more settled I can think about other things including visiting them but one of them has expressed a wish to come here in March which could be interesting!
It's very interesting that you should ask that because both mum and dad used to say that they love all their children. However the eldest of my two brothers regarded himself as the black sheep of the family and he could be disrespectful to both of them. Also my sister-in-law didn't help and my youngest brother used to keep saying how busy he was and thus made it difficult to ask for help from him. Dad also sometimes wondered where he was and between Xmas 2018 and dad's death six months later he saw him once.
There are a whole host of things that my brothers should have done but the list is very long. They used to talk about what dad should have done as a father and my eldest brother used to talk about what mum should have done but of course this has stopped now!
I'm glad I'm not the only one then. We did more clearing today and I got upset because the memories came back. My brother and his partner tried to cheer me up although he did say this was more to do with me not wanting to move.
He will be away for a couple of so I will be able to work at my own pace in peace.
There’s non so blind as those who will not see @MaNaAk . I have a couple of siblings like yours and, after speaking to a counsellor who said that I “can’t make things right for everyone”, I’ve decided to make things right for myself and my kids. Like you we know we did everything we could for dad so we can hold our heads high. We won’t be seeing my brother and sister again for a very long time - preferably never.
Of course it’s all my fault ...
You look after yourself now. It’s a shame your dad didn’t leave you the house.